By Amy Kostak, CFLE.

Virtually all books about potty training emphasize that toddlers have observable signals of readiness. One facet of readiness – which is usually overlooked – is the development of a cooperative parent-child relationship.
Potty training may seem like it’s just about your child, but it’s equally about you.

Before you begin the toilet training process, ask yourself three questions:

1. Is my child ready for potty training?

Many children show signs of potty training between 20-30 months and experts agree this is an ideal time to look for signs of readiness.

2. Am I, the parent, ready for potty training?

Your readiness to toilet train is just as important as your child’s readiness. Your child will be looking to you for support and guidance during this process, so it’s crucial that you are able to stay calm and positive in the face of setbacks.

3. Is our relationship ready for potty training?

Preparation for toilet training begins long before many parents realize. Before you try to toilet train, make sure your relationship with your child is a positive, cooperative one. Then, throughout the pottying transition, continue to spend quality time together and focus on strengthening your relationship.

If you answered yes to ALL of these questions, you are probably ready to start toilet training!

For more help getting ready to potty train or for guidance in answering these questions, join our live, online class: ABC’s of Toilet Training on Saturday, February 24 at 9:30 AM EST. If this class date has passed, you can find a recording of the class here.

During this live, online class, Presenter JoAnn Robinson, PhD, will help you understand:

  • Key ideas about the role of your relationship with your child in toilet training
  • Fun and easy ways to support the development of cooperation, starting as early as the child’s first year
  • Positive parenting solutions for supporting a smooth transition to toilet training
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